It is very common for moms to feel instantly bonded with their baby, but for dads, this could be a little daunting as they have not been feeling little one grow in them for the past nine months. Mom and baby have already created a special bond as she has felt all the kicks, heartburn, and hiccups. While that special day has come and passed of the arrival of your baby moms just want to cuddle that sweet baby nonstop, but don’t forget to not leave dad out! New dads may not particularly seem like they want to be involved but it is just as important for dads to create that special bond with their babies too.
Tip number one: Dads need to participate in skin-to-skin too. This not only regulates the baby’s breathing but can help them stop crying and feel safe for dad it causes your brain to release endorphins, which sparks a strong feeling of love and protection.
Tip two: Take turns wearing your baby! Wearing your baby creates a natural bond as the baby’s like to be close to you, hear your heartbeat, and feel safe. Babies that are carried create a secure attachment to their parents. It has been shown that these babies are happier and healthier and have better relationships as adults if they have been carried by their parents as a baby.
Tip three: Be involved as much as possible! For some reason, a lot of the daily tasks with your new baby fall on the mom, especially if she is breastfeeding. But taking on diaper changes, and bathing baby are great ways to connect with your baby. This will help strengthen your baby’s trust in you and in turn will give you a little oxytocin boost.
Remember bonding is not always immediate for dads. It can take time for them to warm up to hold your baby much less perform diaper changes. Most men don’t have a natural maternal instinct. As time goes on and the dad is more comfortable in handling the baby their bond will be created. Encourage dad that any little moment spent with baby even just looking eye to eye creates trust and love providing a great foundation for the journey of fatherhood!
